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In other words, the rigidity of boundary making was exciting, but his beloved partner was not as enthralled with the role-playing, which started a rift between them that led to the end of the relationship.
Instead, they got tangled up in power struggles that drove them apart.
This was both thrilling and a relief, though it also masked an emotional vulnerability and desire for guidance and support. Only when such needs were sexualized, in a controlled role-playing context, were they safe to express. Otherwise, they stayed repressed.
The downside of rigidity, therefore, is that it is, well, rigid. Meaning there is no fluidity of roles, which might restrict play and lead to emotional frustration for one or both partners.
This means you may possibly be depriving yourself of a longer-term partner with whom you can grow as a couple, as mutual allies. There is nothing wrong with these choices, by the way. Again, sexuality becomes a metaphor for how we attach and relate looking for a normal girl that is interested in kink. Whether this means you try to find someone who matches your preference, or try to adapt to a hot Girl Hookup El mirage Arizona 85335 who has similar but different preferences with whom you can play and experiment and take turns, is of course a highly personal decision.
Some would rather find ways to loosen hormal preferences, especially if the other person is loved but has different sexual needs. But my main point would be to investigate all of the above with compassionate curiosity. In what ways do these activities symbolize emotional surrenders you may have experienced, or wished for but never found?
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Perhaps you experienced pleasure and pain in equal measure and were taught to conflate the two. Also, those who are attracted to dominance and submission may have had boundary violations as a child, violations that are replicated in the adult scenarios while being soothed with sexual excitement and pleasure. If this sounds like you, meeting with a therapist could prove very enlightening and beneficial. I hope this is helpful and perhaps the start of a new and rewarding self-investigation.
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Don't wait too long to lay your kink cards on the table. It won't get easier to talk about over time, you'll just end up feeling like it's more and more weird to be suddenly bringing this up, and in the meantime, you'll each be getting more sexually frustrated.
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